Memorialize at a place of worship or gather in a favorite place? Host a public ceremony or scatter at sunset by the shore? The choice is yours. There is no singular way of commemorating our dead. Some families choose to bury, cremate or entomb the deceased prior to gathering together for the reflections ceremony, while others choose to gather and commemorate first, then commit the remains.
Your local funeral home can help arrange a service prior to committing the remains, or host a gathering weeks after another funeral event has been held elsewhere. There is no right or wrong way… whether you choose to even reflect at all, it is entirely up to you.